Just in case our young men forgot, here’s a reminder from Auntie Badu… Listen to the words, young men.

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Lately I’ve Been Reading…

01f498dc307b11e2ae7122000a9f0a14_7Besides my bible, here’s an update on my latest books purchases and a quick rating for each book. In addition to buying books that I desire to add to my own book collection I also am a library lover so there’s a photo to the right of the last stack of books I checked out from our local public library. I’m a non-fiction and afdf316a1c9311e289de22000a1cf722_7self improvement book maniac so content, originality and the amount of times I’m forced to stop, think and reevaluate parts of my life play very big roles in my rating system. I’m still working on Return to Love but all the rest have been purchased and completed and I’ll be doing a full book review as soon as possible.  Happy reading all!

  • Mrs. Right by Tony Gaskins 4.5/5
  • Its Complicated But Doesn’t Have To Be by Paul Brunson 3.5/5
  • Black Woman Redefined by Sophia A. Nelson 4/5
  • A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson TBA

PS: Update me and tell me what you’re reading or recently read. What books would you recommend?

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Nick Vujicic on Oprah’s Lifeclass

This man changed my perspective. I’ve always been more of a solution seeker than a complainer but once I saw this I vowed to myself I’d NEVER complain again! Watch this excerpt from Oprah’s Lifeclass with Rick Warren.

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Season of Giving: 10 Volunteer Projects for Kids

Its the most wonderful time of the year and (if you’d rather not raise spoiled, selfish kids) volunteer and community service projects are ALWAYS a great way to remind them what the “season of giving” is REALLY about. Here is a quick list of 10 of my suggestions to get your kids involved this and every holiday season to come. Happy Holidays all! 

1) Choose and purchase $10 wish list items from a giving tree (find these at your local Walmart or some restaurants) These are Christmas trees on display with ornaments or paper start listing a few facts about less fortunate kids Christmas wishes, maybe a first name and their age. We’ve found requests for everything from a Barbie doll to a pair of socks!

2) Get a group together to go volunteer at a shelter, food bank, Meals on Wheels, soup kitchen, church, etc. Call ahead to make arrangements!

6) Create and send Holiday cards for soldiers. Be sure not to use glitter or loose objects and label each card generically so they can go to ANY soldier. Also, don’t place cards in single envelopes, collect a bunch and place them in a manila envelope, add postage and send the collection off that way.

4) Create, package and ship out “Hygiene Kits” for Church World Service. This is a year round opportunity and they even have School Kits too! Click the link for FULL details!

5) Arrange tutoring sessions for teens to help younger kids learn simple math, reading, writing, etc at a local daycare facility. Maybe even art projects and board games.

6) Buy a small Christmas tree, decorate it with homemade or store-bought items and donate it to a local children’s hospital or nursing home.

7) Volunteer to read Christmas books/stories to elderly at a nursing home with adult supervision. Call ahead to arrange the visit.

8) Create jigsaw puzzles with happy images/messages for Alzheimer patients (solving puzzles & other mental activities slows down loss of brain function in Alzheimer patients) and drop them off to a local nursing home. This is also a great project to donate to facilities housing disabled adults or kids.

9) Find a local business or organization collecting unwrapped Toys for Tots and volunteer to wrap all the toys donated!

10) Organizing local food drives (canned goods, peanut butter & jelly sandwiches for homeless, etc) are always a winner! Maybe add some holiday joy by collecting candy canes or holiday cookies (wrap in saran wrap with red and green twisty ties and voila!)

Note: The Bible Says…

Acts 20:35 | In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’

2 Corinthians 9:7 | Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.

1 Timothy 6:18 | Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share.

Hebrews 13:16 | And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.


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Officially My 2013 Song of the Year: “Girl on Fire”

Claim it! This is officially my 2013 song of the year! Album review coming soon…

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Hope for Haiti Food Packing Event in Naples, Florida!

For those who have wanted for so long to make a difference in Haiti but didn’t know how, here’s your chance! Hope for Haiti in Naples, Florida is planning a food packing event to help those affected by Hurricane Sandy in Haiti for December 8th and they need YOUR help! All details via the website including links can be found below, please come out and dedicate ONE DAY to help others! See you there…


Hurricane Sandy Response – Emergency Event

Thank you all for helping raise awareness about the devastation in the South of Haiti following Hurricane Sandy.  In response, we have distributed 2,000 buckets to program partners and are working to prepare another 2,500 for immediate distribution. 

200 volunteers needed to help pack 75,000 meals on December 8th, 2012, in Naples, FL!


A gift of $100 supports the purchase and assembly of the vital contents of these Survival Buckets. A 5-gallon recycled vegetable oil bucket contains personal sanitation kits, candles, matches, water purification tablets, and fortified dry meals (usually five bags per bucket) to help a family of five in the wake of this disaster.   

If you can’t attend the event, please help us reach our goal with a donation.


Please read the recent news article
featuring our response  

Thank you for your support! 


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A Pic Is Worth 1,000 Words…

…while Twitter only holds 140 characters. Join me on Instagram. Search for “queenuniquemvp”


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FAQ: New Natural Hair Transitioning…


As of late going natural is the new trend & I get NUMEROUS questions from my new naturalista sistas about my crown of nearly 6 years. I decided to put ALL the info into one resource so its easier thus, this blog! Now please understand, THIS IS WHAT WORKS/WORKED FOR ME. There are no promises because we all have different hair types & textures but I’m more than willing to share some of my tips for transitioning. Here goes…

• Transitioning is going to be frustrating and annoying and will send you AND your hair into shock. Your hair will break, shed & become a tangled heap of dry tumbleweed & your self confidence will be tested but your determination & patience should be strong enough to endure this. At the end of the day, how bad do you want it??

• Moisture & maintenance are vital. Keeping your hair in braids, double strand twists or box plaits during this time will save you from ALOT of panic. Moisturize between these braids/plaits/twists every day as often as possible. My moisturizers of choice are coconut oil here & there and a Glycerin/water mix daily. This is 2 parts pure water, 1 part Glycerin (from a whole foods store, has a sweet scent) in a plastic “misting” bottle (mist is better than spray, the hair absorbs the thinner amounts easier)

• DO NOT sleep on or pack down your hair. It will be a matted mess & frustrate you directly to a barber’s chair or back to the creamy crack! Before bed, moisturize generously and braid your hair down (nothing fancy) into 4-6 cornrows & a satin scarf. I still do this every night even now!

• My deep conditioning product of choice is 100% pure coconut milk. Yes, the kind you can buy at a grocery store. You can blend it with essential oils, mayo, eggs and/or avacado. I’ve been & still am a product junkie but the REAL natural products are the ONLY items I’ve been consistent with. My goal is to only use products on my hair that are safe to eat/consume.

• If you DO buy products, become a label freak. Read. Read. READ! If you can’t pronounce most of it, why use it??? Avoid ingredients like mineral oil & ANY type of acid or alcohol.

• Drink LOTS of water, eat healthier and take daily vitamins and biotin. I take prenatal vitamins (safe to use at any time for women) and 5000mg biotin. Eat more veggies, fruit, fish & chicken and get into this new smoothie trend. Natural is a way of life, NOT a trend or style! What you put in directly affects what comes out so if you eat junk food you’ll have junk hair & nails. Just keepin’ it 100, don’t shoot the messenger.

• Because I work full time among other endeavors AND I have a 13yo with a SUPER ‘fro & a 17yo I’m working on transitioning, I don’t have much time for my own hair so I cut it every 1-3 months or when I take out a protective style. This length is most manageable for me so I try to keep it here to spare time & energy. When you’re transitioning, don’t be afraid to cut the dead/permed ends off as your new coils grow in. You’ll see a very distinct difference between the two and instantly realize your natural hair is healthier, stronger & more beautiful than ever before.

Hope this helps, any more questions or concerns email me & I’ll do my best to address or direct you to a resource that can. Congrats & happy napptural journeys sistas!


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Work Hard, Play Hard at the Edison

Hey local jokers! If you work hard, its time to come play hard at the Edison Restaurant & Bar! Check out the Summertime deal for a FREE office party at one of my favorite spots. Excellent service and there are drink and food specials, live music and more happening EVERY night here: Sundays, Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, AND Fridays or just view the calendar by clicking HERE. For more info, follow them on Twitter HERE, click the flyer to visit their website or call the phone number below.

The Edison Restaurant & Bar
3583 McGregor Blvd
Fort Myers, FL 33901
phone 239.936.9348 • fax 239.936.8610 Email

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Nominate a Maker: Women Who Make Southwest Florida

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Do you know of a dynamic, trailblazing woman who is making a mark on our region in the arts, business, education and politics? Or an exceptional woman who is affecting change through her activism in environmental or social justice issues? If so, WGCU invites you to nominate that woman to be featured in MAKERS: Women Who Make Southwest Florida – a cross-platform television, radio, web and magazine project.

WGCU is looking for women who have impacted Southwest Florida’s past, present and future by:

* Serving as the “first” in their field
* Affecting lasting change
* Building community
* Defying social norms
*  Leaving a legacy    

Click here to nominate a woman and to learn more about how she may be selected to be featured in our media streams in Spring 2013. DEADLINE for nominations is Oct. 1, 2012. Click here to download/print nomination form.

The Women’s Fund of Southwest Florida is honored to partner withWGCU to get the word out about this exciting initiative for our region. Women chosen by WGCU‘s selection committee may go on to be nominated for the national PBS/AOL initiative MAKERS.

via  Brenda Tate, President The Women’s Fund of Southwest Florida 
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